It’s been a while since I last wrote a blog post. It has not been for a lack of material, my thoughts are always running, but a lack of decision to just sit down and write as I always have. But here we are again… a comment on Twitter reminded me that I used to do this so I am back. Hope you are ready to read away as I take you on a journey into… Narnia!?
As a child, I was always fascinated by superheroes. Some of the first superheroes I came across include the Power Rangers. The ones where the lightning fell into the middle of their name after the theme song ended? Some of you may not be old enough to remember. Others included Beetleborgs, the weirdest costumes but they worked for me. Three kids in a haunted house with all sorts of creepy characters. It was a cool show. Kids of those days were much braver hanging out in a haunted house with mummies and werewolves! Heneway, these shows were my first encounters with saving the world. It seemed like the dutiful, well… honestly, it seemed rather cool than dutiful to do. Everyone liked the superheroes but there were also intriguing because they had to hide them from the world. In my later years, I became quite religious and felt this “call” on my life to reel the whole world into heaven until that burden was taken away. It’s been an interesting journey thus far!
More on my focus today, we have many “superheroes” in the world, in comic books, movies, on social media (surprisingly) and everywhere. Many of us, I could say almost everyone, I have met wants to save the world. That’s why we have so many of us advising people (who have not asked), speaking on several platforms like we have all the knowledge in the universe. No mere mortal can challenge us! How dare they defy a superhero sent (from Mbarara) to rescue them? I am right, I know better, I cannot be challenged. Everyone would be better off if they followed my way. I know this resonates with you as you read this, in some way or another. We have all probably thought we are God’s gift to the world to rescue it with our special talents and gifts. Don’t leave yet, the good part is almost here.
I cannot remember when this happened, but as I grew older and learned, I noticed I had this tendency. I still do in fewer doses. I loved to give unwarranted advice, unwarranted information of many things I have learned. In most cases, I believed these things would help others but honestly, with hundreds of arguments on my belt, some that got me worked up just to be right, I realized that this was a dead end. Another very important realization was that I have a bunch of issues to fix in my own life that was affecting my personal growth. I was stuck trying to save the world while mine was crumbling, internally. I realized a desire to save the world was often an indicator that I was trying to escape saving myself. We often project what we are in the world. Reality though does not change based on our projections. Reality does not care about our ideals, thoughts and delusions.
Additionally, people are not looking for you or asking you to save them. Most of us are convinced of our way until we are not. On my journey, people have advised me on different things, some after I asked and others, without asking. I know many times; I ignore the latter. I have ignored some who were invited to advise knowing I did not agree with them, genuinely. It was only until I was ready to learn what may have been shared at the time that I accepted it, learnt and implemented it. It was ONLY UNTIL I came to that place. I remember a time I crushed on a woman so bad. I allowed myself to be used (yes, it was my fault for not knowing better). I did so many dumb things I related in my “Love at first butt” blog. I remember a couple of friends, some women, strangely, who told me I could do better. They told me I should move on because this girl was using me. I heard all they said and somewhat, I could see it, but I was not convinced. It was not until it truly sank in that I redirected myself. We all have our time and need to appreciate other people’s timing.
Fast forward… a little, I focus more on what I need to deal with internally. There is still a desire to help others where possible but this is more based on sharing my lessons and letting people pick and choose what they do with them. It’s better to save yourself first, if possible, just yourself. Other people will find themselves on that path/or whichever other in due time, the same way we found our way. It’s not our burden to save the world. Our greatest burden is to save ourselves, and maybe after that, we will come across others willing to change themselves. We will not need to shove our experiences and lessons down their throats, they will be ready to eat. Easier to feed a hungry person?
